My dad hit me and i don't like him.. my friends dad hit her and she still loves him..?

A friend and I discussed this today at lunch. Abuse affects people in different ways. Both of us were emotionally abused by one of our parents. My friend's siblings turned to be much like the abuser while my friend became very strong and intolerant of such actions. So did I. We are each the product of everything that happens to us. Some of us become stronger while others become weaker. Loving an abusive parent is a strange thing. Those people so try to make their parents love them and often at a dear cost to themselves. People that abuse have a sickness in them and I have got to the point where I feel sorry for them. You and I and my friend decided that we wouldn't accept that behavior and didn't want much to do with our parents. We both wanted them to love us but we realized it would not be on our terms. We got stronger for it. . .I think. Little story. I had my first job after college and somewhere toward the end of the first year this woman became part of the board of directors. She would be polite in front of others and become totally unreasonable as soon as there was no one around. I was forced to tolerate her. I did so for a while until she cost me my first raise. I looked for another job and took it and quit the first one. I explained to my boss why and about her and left. My boss was responsible for the actions because she is supposed to be in control of what goes on. I made her aware but wanted no more to do with any of it. About a year later I was helping the same friend above doing some free work. We helped out at a church with a pastor that has a direct line to God. I swear... and I'm not religious but he's quite a person. The same woman shows up and gets in my face. The pastor explained that she had repented to him and wanted to change her ways. He did not understand that while I long ago forgave her for her deeds(and not because she apologized to me and asked forgiveness but because I pitied her because of the person she was). . .any way I could work with her but really just didn't want anything to do with her. He didn't understand that I didn't want to give her another chance. And I didn't understand why he would expect me to want to do anything with her because she had not asked for my forgiveness. Sorry. . .long story but I have no use for abusers that don't repent and maybe not even then. I think you need to take care of yourself and remember whatever happens to you affects you forever. Keep it positive and don't let anything ruin the rest of your life.